So called Suggestion

Everyone Is Mature — And That’s Exactly the Problem

We often hear people say, “Everyone is mature now. They know what they’re doing.” On the surface, it sounds fair. After all, every individual has their own experiences, struggles, and ways of thinking. No one likes being told what to do.

So I thought—maybe I should stop telling anything at all. If everyone already knows what they’re doing, then who am I to suggest something? Even when the intention is good, advice today feels unnecessary, even unwanted.

But here’s the reality: maturity doesn’t mean we always make the right choices.

Today, even if you suggest something genuinely good—something meant to help—many people take it as interference. Advice feels like control. Concern feels like judgement. Guidance feels like ego. So instead of listening, people defend their decisions, even when those decisions may harm them in the long run.

The idea of “I know everything” has quietly replaced the idea of “I can still learn.”

We live in a time where opinions are louder than wisdom. Everyone wants to be right, but very few want to reflect. Social media, instant validation, and personal pride have made us emotionally independent but intellectually rigid. We mistake freedom for stubbornness and confidence for closed-mindedness.

The truth is, no one grows alone.

Every successful person has listened to someone at some point—a teacher, a friend, a mentor, or even a stranger. Growth comes from openness, not from assuming we already know enough.

Being mature doesn’t mean rejecting advice.

Being mature means knowing when to listen.

Sometimes, a good suggestion is not an attack on your freedom. It’s an act of care.

My conclusion is this: I may choose to speak less, but I won’t stop caring. I understand that everyone is on their own journey and responsible for their choices. Still, when something genuinely matters, I’ll share my thoughts with humility—not to control, but to care. After that, the decision is theirs. True maturity lies in knowing when to speak, when to stay silent, and always keeping the intention pure.

And sometimes, learning to accept that is the real maturity.

Expressed by: Sugyan Nanda 

(Emotional Intelligence aspirant)